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Not impressed.. When I found out I settled my superannuation claim,… - evil_do_gooder
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Not impressed..

When I found out I settled my superannuation claim, I told my mum.. Anyways, a week later she asked to borrow some $, namely $4,000 to pay out her bills. I've helped out my mum a few times in the past and I'm happy to do it but then I think, she's an adult right? She has always had financial issues and she is always helping out my fuckwit 34 year old brother and this guy that she was dating years ago. 

Anyways, we lent her the $4,000 and she said she would start paying back from her next pay. That pay day came and she didn't contact me nor say anything.. I SMS'ed her and asked her what was happening.. She said that she had a few bills and was going to make her first repayment the next fortnight. 

So yesterday was the first fortnight and I got her first repayment today. She was supposed to repay us $250 a fortnight but I see that she has only repaid $150. I asked her what was going on and she said she had a "water and sewerage bill" that she had to pay.

I'm so annoyed and will never lend money to anyone again.. :o(

Current Mood: annoyed annoyed

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succubus_kz From: succubus_kz Date: August 6th, 2010 11:55 am (UTC) (Link)
Oh hon, that really sucks. My mum always said neither a borrower or a lender be - I think she has a point!
evil_do_gooder From: evil_do_gooder Date: August 6th, 2010 06:36 pm (UTC) (Link)
Your mum is a clever lady!

I think now I know why they say you shouldn't lend money to family.. :o(

It's really unfair as my mum is making me feel guilty; that I'm the baddie. The money I got is because I can't work and as soon as I told her I got it, she came knocking. I sometimes feel as if I'm the parent and she's the child - am I supposed to keep helping her out?..

I really appreciate you 'friending' me here hon and reading my posts! Good to have an outlet! :D
succubus_kz From: succubus_kz Date: August 6th, 2010 06:43 pm (UTC) (Link)
No probs doll. Parents are supposed to be able to manage in their own and not ask kids for cash. I could never imagine asking my 15 yr old for cash later on in life. Apart from board if she stays post 18. It's just not right. So what if you got cash, you got it for a valid reason which is to help you support yourself and your family not your mum. I think a bit of tough love is in order where you state, once she's paid back this loan, is that you're not prepared to loan her money again. Tell her that it isn't because you don't want to help her but that you don't want to resent her if she can't repay as promised. Tell her your relationship is worth more than that. I'm so sorry she's making you feel bad but you are clearly not in the wrong and have been more than generous to a fault. Vent away hon x
evil_do_gooder From: evil_do_gooder Date: August 6th, 2010 11:57 pm (UTC) (Link)
Thank you hon! You have a smart head on your shoulders! :D

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